When I first sat down to think about this month’s Italy Roundtable theme, BUGS, I immediately thought I’d write something about mosquitoes.
Not because I have any fondness for them, mind you – just because I adore the Italian word*.
But then I went down a weird little side street in my brain (what, don’t you have those?), from bugs being literal bugs to bugs being something bothersome.
So here we are.
And, what the hell, I’ve thrown in some pictures of bugs, too.
As much as we might love something, there are inevitably things that bother us about it. They may start out as little things, manageable things, things you might even think are charming at first… But when you’re tired or hungry or frustrated those small infractions get amplified.
Yes, even Italy can drive you nuts sometimes.
I recently asked the question in a couple Facebook forums, “What bugs you about Italy?” I find that often the things that bother us about another country or culture are things that can be mitigated with a little context or understanding. So I’ve chosen a few of the replies I received to highlight here and – I hope – turn frustrations into lessons that may help you avoid the same fate.
Before I dive in, however, I want to make something clear: The intention of this article is not to start some diatribe on all the ways Italy sucks. I welcome comments on this article. If you’ve got something that bothered/bothers you about Italy, please leave a note – and if you’ve got a solution, something you did to remedy the situation, even better. Just keep it kind, okay? We all need a little more kindness.
– Kerstin, MsMarmiteLover.com
Even though you may have already read my article declaring that there’s really no such thing as Italian food, and even knowing that each region has its own list of specialties, Kerstin’s right – there isn’t the same culinary diversity in Italy as you’ll find in an extremely multi-cultural city like London or New York.
Here are a few tips for when you need a break, so your first though when looking at a menu in Italy isn’t a resigned, “Oh, great, more pasta.”
– Ali, Travel-Made-Simple.com
I have made the mistake of boarding a train at 11am with no food (and a 2-3 hour train trip ahead of me) more times than I can count. The end result is that I arrive in a new city famished, often well past Italy’s traditional lunch hour, leaving me with very few options other than fast food.
This is not a fun feeling.
Italy seems to relish making travelers adjust to its idiosyncrasies. As much as the country has taught me to relax and go with the flow, I find that works best if you’ve got some decent plans in place to start. In this case, that means eating when the Italians eat.
Maybe you typically eat a big breakfast. Italians don’t, so you’ll need to have a stash of snacks or fruit at the ready to keep you going long after your cornetto and tiny coffee have worn off (outdoor food markets are your friends for grabbing snack-y supplies). That should help you last until 1pm or so, when the Italians have lunch.
And don’t just have a snack-sized lunch, either. Even if you don’t normally eat big meals, remember that you’re being a lot more active when you’re traveling than you usually are at home. You’re walking everywhere, and you’re on the go all day long, rather than sitting behind a desk. So pack in those calories, folks! A bigger lunch can help you make it until aperitivo, which bridges the (admittedly brief) gap until dinner.
– Sara, MsAdventuresInItaly.com
Sara actually went on to provide her own little advice tidbit: “Never accept the first answer you get, unless it’s one you want.”
Mom doesn’t let you have dessert, so go ask Dad – we’ve all played that game.
Much of the bureaucratic nightmare that is Italy goes unseen by visitors. You won’t encounter lines at the post office to pay utility bills unless you live there. Sure, you’ll notice trash cans overflowing when the garbage company is on strike, but it’s a temporary annoyance – you move on in a few days.
But travelers can encounter difficulties in the bureaucracy department if they don’t speak or understand much Italian. Ask a question at one train station ticket window, get a half-answer (or brushed off), then find another employee to ask. And another, if you need to.
I think it’s important to be firm but stay polite, as frustrating as that can be. Learn your polite Italian words and sprinkle them liberally throughout any requests you’re making. It can absolutely help. And, of course, be prepared for the answer you don’t want being the final answer. We can’t always get our way.
– Johanna, TravelEater.net
I was blessed with a huge bladder. (I’m great on road trips, y’all.) Not everyone gets to be as picky about their toilets as I can be, though, so if you’re someone who needs to use the loo frequently you may face some (ahem) unsightly lavatories in Italy.
You might find a room half the size of a cramped shower stall, a toilet with no seat, or a hole in the floor (affectionately known as a “squatty potty” by many). No matter the style of commode, you should consider yourself extremely fortunate if you find an adequate supply of toilet paper. Here are a few ways to keep the Italian public toilet experience from scarring you for life:
As an (unrelated) aside, Johanna’s other gripe was that she “can’t possibly understand how Italian women can walk on all those cobblestone streets in their high heels.” I so wish I could help with that one, but sadly I’m as befuddled about that as you are, Johanna.
I got so many great replies to my initial questions that I’ve had to choose only a few here – which means there will be more of these articles in the future! Which also means that if you’d like to chime in on what bugs you about Italy, I might just feature it in a future article. Just remember to keep it kind, y’all.
Leave a comment below with something that bugs you about Italy, or you can email me if you like.
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* It’s zanzara, by the way. That’s mosquito in Italian. Zanzare, if you’re talking about a swarm. Now doesn’t that feel great to say?
Entertaining read, but I was very surprised to see the first “bug” on the list as becoming tired of eating Italian food. That is something I don’t think I could ever tire of. However, as you say, the schedule is something that can be very difficult to get used to. We have to plan ahead for something that comes perfectly natural to an Italian. The bureaucracy speaks for itself, but I’d like to add that it’s best not to stock up on all your tissue needs before you leave home. The tissue packets in Italy are so much thicker than the American variety. They are sort of the consistency of dressy paper napkins, which is great for the many purposes they come in handy for!
Yep, that’s why I mentioned stocking up on tissue packs at the start of an Italy trip. They’re invaluable! 🙂
Love this line “Italy seems to relish making travelers adjust to its idiosyncrasies.” In oh-so-many ways, Jessica.
Heh. Thanks, Laurel.
Great list and helpful responses! The other night my husband asked what would make me happy to have for dinner and my answer was, “Not Italian.” I really love the local cooking here, but just every once in awhile I just want Thai or Indian – without having to order spices online, grow my own herbs like cilantro and make it myself. 🙂 I think it’s a bit easier in larger cities, but on the Amalfi Coast there aren’t any other options.
There’s no cilantro in Roma, either. We lapped up non-Italian food in London, Paris and Switzerland!
You can find cilantro pretty easily at some of the markets in Rome now, especially Mercato Trionfale – there are at least 3 stalls right near the entrance selling cilantro and other Thai/Philippine food. Keep an eye out for it!
Jess, thanks for including me!
Of course, dahlink! 🙂
I’ll look. We go to Mercato Trionfale a couple of times a month but I have not seen it before. I know there’s a place with a lot of Filipino/Asian products as they are a dependable source of limes. I’ll head over there next weekend. Thanks!
I remember once trying out a new Mexican restaurant in Milan, just because I needed a change. It was, umm, nothing like Mexican food, but it was still a break from Italian! 😀
Having travelled to Italy many times over the past 20 years I am bugged by the constant barrage of someone sticking a selfie stick in my path in an attempt to have me buy it, or throwing those whirly things into the air, or shining those small disco balls against the wall or projecting them in my eyes……..it has ruined the experience in San Marco Piazza, near the Pantheon and Piazza Navonna, and around many other main tourist squares. I realize everyone needs to make a living, however I would hope that the local authorities could do something about it…………
Thanks for the comment, Gabe! I’ll add this one to my list for a future article.
I spend 3 or more months a year Home to Italy so ‘things’ interest me………once I slow down my pace I mostly enjoy every day in Italy.
but often I can NOT FIND THE ANSWERS to questions.
I need to know who has the right of way on a narrow sidewalk when Italians insist on walking 2 or more across?
have been told baby carriages come first and of course the handicapped but what do you do when there is a constant flow of casual walkers hogging the sidewalk?
thought there was a universal rule of stepping aside……….
Lee, You hit on the one thing that really irks me in Rome (especially) and that is the inability of people to keep to the right! When 5 kids are marching toward us (a senior couple) on the sidewalk, why do they not move over at all? Why does a person walking alone walk down the middle of the sidewalk so you can not pass easily? Why do Romans congregate in the middle of the walk to have a conversation and make everyone veer around them instead of moving aside as we were taught in the U.S?
After living in Sorrento for 3 months i had an opportunity to watch the ‘sidewalk’ policy.
they closed the main street most nights for the community to walk and mingle, one the BEST parts of living there.
Perhaps in a larger city the sidewalk serves the same as a square or a piazza…………..i am thrilled they still ‘talk’ to each other but what i have come to realize there is NO peripheral vision in Italy and some of my contacts there may agree. they just don’t look to the sides or even feel that someone is walking behind them….. most interesting
where i did NOT find this was Lecce in Puglia, but many more streets are mostly pedestrian
This remains one of the mysteries of Italy to me. For a long time, I thought I had it – for no reason I could determine, Italians moved to the left rather than the right on sidewalks (usually it’s the same on sidewalks as on the streets for cars). That “rule” seemed to apply to most situations, barring the flat-out rude ones of those groups of kids who won’t move for anyone. But now I think there is no rule. I would dearly love to know if there’s any sort of etiquette taught about this in Italy at all, or if it’s really the free-for-all it appears. 😉
A friend of mine who was raised 1/2 in Palermo and 1/2 in New York City said that in Italy they were never taught “keep right except to pass” and they never formed lines in school.In NY, both were expected. Explains a lot. I think it is about 60% veer left when walking, if they veer at all. Worse in Rome than elsewhere.
good explanation! a woman i know in Florence yelled at me when i kept asking about all the differences ‘If you don’t like Italy, why do you come so often?’
that is 1/2 the reason, because it is not the same as here
I shall have to watch for ‘move left’ in rome in oct………..that may be the answer, i am doing it backwards
Actually, the biggest bug for me is in fact zanzare (mosquitoes) which I thought this article was going to be about!
Everything else seems to be covered mostly in the comments section. No peripheral vision on sidewalks sometimes drives me buts.
Beauracracy in Italy is on another plane. You either accept that things are done (or not done at all) or you end up frustrated.
Emails do not get answered.
I signed up to WIND mobile to try a simm out for a month at €19. For 6 months, no matter how many times I called, emailed, went to the post office and paid 5.50 each time to they would cancel it, I was charged €100 a month.
In the end I had to close that bank account and I’ve given up on trying to get my money back. I’ve still never had a response from WIND.
When the ticket machine at italo didn’t give me an actual ticket I was told to email the office. Needless to say, its been months and none of my emails were answered.
I once emailed the Florence Comune about an issue and never had a response.
As long as I don’t have to do anything administrative or important, I love living in Italy.
Haha! Sorry about the bait-and-switch on the zanzare thing. 🙂 Thanks for the comment!